I Resolve to Make No Resolutions!

January 6, 2014 at 8:53 pm | Posted in Experiences, Mental Health, Psychology, Writing, Writing and Life | 7 Comments
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Many people begin a new year by pondering changes they will make. They review the year just gone and look at how they could have done things better. Then they make resolutions for the year ahead. 2013-2014 sign

They vow they will drink less, quit smoking, join a gym. They decide on ways they can become happier, slimmer, more active, more productive, more engaged with others, etc. They make resolutions. I will do this, or that, or the other.


However, within very little time, most of those who have made resolutions break them. And break them again, and again. And then give up on them.

Why do they break them? Because they are not completely and utterly committed to keeping those resolutions. There is something between the them and the decision to do or not to do something – and that makes their decision, their resolve, worthless; lost before they even begin.

And then come the feelings of guilt. Oh, don’t I know all about those feelings of guilt! After all, I was brought up as a Catholic, and nobody knows guilt like Catholics.


I’m not good enough! I’ve failed – again! I’m useless!

Guilt it paralysing. So, this year, I have avoided making resolutions altogether (except for the decision not to make any). Instead, I have set goals that I would like to achieve this year.


All the goals are associated with my writing, since that is the area of my life that I need most to sort out. I have tried to make my goals realistic and achievable. I do not want those guilt feelings to overwhelm me again this year!

2014 goals

And that is why I am writing this blog entry. One of my goals was to write a blog entry at least every week. I wrote one on the last day of 2013 – that’s just under a week ago. This is the first one for 2014. This goal I have achieved – for this week anyway. Phew!

(c) Linda Visman, January 2014



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  1. I agree with you Linda. I like you idea of achievable goals. Have a great year.

  2. Very similar to having dreams?

    • Do you mean resolutions or dreams, Paul? Resolutions are often like dreams that you forget as soon as you awaken.
      Goals are things you are aiming for. They should be realistic and achievable, otherwise they too are just dreams.
      But goals and the means to achieve them can be flexible. We all know that circumstances beyond our control can change things, sometimes drastically. You may have to find another way to achieve your goal – or the goal may change in light of the changed circumstances.
      In answer to your question, Paul, I would say that goals are not so much dreams themselves, but more like steps along the way towards achieving the dreams you already have.

      • I think you are right. Having dreams is fine but I think you need to put down practical steps to making them come true. Also you need to remind yourself of the resolutions and dreams you have as to often they are forgotten along the way.

  3. I haven’t made any resolutions for decades. I have hopes for this year, and I will try to achieve them.
    Best of luck, Linda, with your goals for 2014!

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